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You are valued by God! Your value was settled at the cross. Jesus believes that YOU are so special, that He went through the ultimate suffering…just to be with you.

Stop believing the lies that tie your value to anything else!

"Toxic shame is a sense that you are not lovable. That something is wrong with you. To break toxic shame, you must get your eyes off yourself and onto Jesus."
-Dr. Rob Reimer, 'Soul Care'

Most destructive patterns are connected to an agreement with a lie somewhere deep in the heart.

Repeated emotional reactions, unhealthy coping, chronic fear, relational dysfunction, shame, pride, passivity, addiction, perfectionism, control, people-pleasing, and hopelessness often grow from believed lies.

"Whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin."
-James 4:17
If the Holy Spirit has put something (an action to take, something to speak, etc) on your heart and you have not been able to do it for fear of the result, commitment, or how another may respond - it is very likely that that thing (action, word, other person) is not the source of your problem, but that you need freedom from a lie that you believe from the list below...and Jesus wants your freedom first!

Below is a list you can walk through, use as a reflection guide, workbook, small group discussion, counseling tool, or journaling exercise.

Lies People Believe About Themselves:

Identity & Worth

• I am not enough.

• I am worthless.

• I have no value unless I perform.

• I am a failure.

• I am defective.

• Something is fundamentally wrong with me.

• I am unlovable.

• I am unwanted.

• I am invisible.

• I do not matter.

• I am too broken for God to use.

• I am beyond healing.

• I am a disappointment.

• I am only as good as my last success.

• My mistakes define me.

• My past defines my future.

• I will never change.

• I am weak because I struggle.

• I have to earn love.

• I am too much.

• I am not enough for anyone to truly choose me.

• I am only valuable when needed by others.

• I do not deserve rest.

• I do not deserve joy.

• I am shameful.

• If people knew the real me, they would reject me.

Lies About God

• God is disappointed in me.

• God is distant.

• God loves others more than me.

• God tolerates me but does not delight in me.

• God abandoned me.

• God caused my suffering because He is angry with me.

• God only loves me when I obey perfectly.

• God cannot forgive this sin.

• God is withholding good things from me.

• God cannot be trusted.

• God does not hear my prayers.

• God is harsh and impossible to please.

• God is passive toward injustice in my life.

• God forgot me.

• God only uses perfect people.

• God is tired of me failing.

• God’s grace has limits.

• I have to clean myself up before approaching God.

• Intimacy with God is for “better Christians.”

Lies About Love & Relationships

• People always leave.

• Nobody will stay if they see the real me.

• I have to earn acceptance.

• I must please people to be loved.

• Conflict means rejection.

• Vulnerability is dangerous.

• I cannot trust anyone.

• Everyone is eventually disloyal.

• I am safer emotionally alone.

• My needs are a burden.

• I should never need help.

• I have to fix everyone around me.

• I am responsible for other people’s emotions.

• If I disappoint people, they will abandon me.

• Love always leads to pain.

• I will always be rejected romantically.

• Healthy relationships are impossible.

• I need control to stay safe.

• I cannot set boundaries without hurting people.

• Submission means weakness.

• Authority always abuses.

• I have to hide my true feelings.

• I am only lovable when useful.

Lies Rooted in Shame

• I am dirty.

• I am permanently damaged.

• My sin is greater than God’s mercy.

• I deserve punishment.

• I should hide.

• I must pretend to be okay.

• I am fake.

• I am a hypocrite.

• I am beyond redemption.

• My struggles make me disqualified.

• I am alone in my battle.

• Everyone else has it together except me.

• I cannot admit weakness.

• If I confess, I will be rejected.

• My pain is my fault.

• I should be over this by now.

Lies About Fear, Safety & Control

• If I lose control, everything will fall apart.

• I must always stay prepared for disaster.

• Rest is dangerous.

• I cannot let my guard down.

• Anxiety keeps me safe.

• I am only secure if I control outcomes.

• People cannot be trusted with responsibility.

• I have to carry everything myself.

• If I fail once, I will never recover.

• The future is hopeless.

• I will always struggle financially.

• Bad things are always about to happen.

• Peace is temporary and unsafe.

• If I slow down, I will fall behind.

• I cannot survive disappointment.

Lies About Success & Performance

• My productivity determines my worth.

• I must prove myself constantly.

• Failure makes me insignificant.

• I cannot make mistakes.

• Rest is laziness.

• I have to be exceptional to matter.

• If I am not winning, I am losing.

• I must compare myself to others.

• Other people’s success diminishes mine.

• I am behind in life.

• I missed my opportunity.

• It is too late for me.

• I cannot start over.

• I have to hustle to deserve respect.

• Achievement will finally satisfy me.

• If I work hard enough, I can control everything.

Lies About Emotions

• Emotions are weakness.

• Anger is always sinful.

• Sadness means lack of faith.

• Fear means God has abandoned me.

• I should never struggle emotionally.

• I cannot trust my feelings at all.

• Strong people do not cry.

• I must suppress emotions to be spiritual.

• Nobody cares how I feel.

• My emotions make me a burden.

• I am responsible for everyone else’s emotional state.

• I should always be happy.

• My pain is insignificant compared to others.

Lies About Spirituality & Faith

• I have to perform spiritually for God to accept me.

• Christians should not struggle.

• If I had enough faith, I would never suffer.

• Spiritual maturity means never doubting.

• God only speaks to certain people.

• I am spiritually inferior.

• I am disqualified from ministry.

• Prayer does not really change anything.

• Deliverance and healing are not for me.

• I must hide my struggles to appear mature.

• I can overcome sin through willpower alone.

• My identity is my sin struggle.

• I will always be bound.

• Freedom is for other people.

Lies About Purpose & Calling

• My life has no purpose.

• I have nothing meaningful to offer.

• I missed God’s calling.

• I am too old to start.

• I am too inexperienced.

• I am too damaged to lead.

• Someone else could always do it better.

• My gifts do not matter.

• I am insignificant in the Kingdom of God.

• My obedience will not make a difference.

• I have to know the whole plan before taking a step.

Lies About Trauma & Suffering

• What happened to me defines me forever.

• I will never heal.

• I deserved what happened to me.

• My story is too messy.

• God was absent in my suffering.

• Pain means God is not good.

• I should just “get over it.”

• Nobody can understand my pain.

• Healing is impossible.

• I will always carry this bondage.

• Trusting again would be foolish.

• My trauma made me permanently unsafe.

Lies Common in Men

• My value comes from strength and success.

• I cannot show weakness.

• I must carry everything alone.

• Vulnerability makes me less masculine.

• I am only respected when I achieve.

• I cannot fail publicly.

• Emotions are dangerous.

• Asking for help is weakness.

• I must always be in control.

Lies Common in Women

• My appearance determines my worth.

• I must keep everyone happy.

• I have to carry everyone emotionally.

• My voice does not matter.

• Boundaries are selfish.

• I must prove my value constantly.

• I am too much or not enough.

• My role is to disappear for others.

• I cannot disappoint anyone.

Lies Often Learned in Childhood

• I have to earn affection.

• I am only noticed when I succeed.

• Love is inconsistent.

• My feelings are inconvenient.

• Conflict is unsafe.

• I have to become who others want me to be.

• I cannot trust authority.

• I am responsible for fixing chaos.

• My needs do not matter.

• I must stay small to stay safe.

• I am safer hidden than known.

Reflection Questions

• What recurring emotion do I feel most strongly?

• What thought repeatedly accompanies that emotion?

• When did I first start believing this?

• Whose voice does this sound like?

• What behaviors grow from this belief?

• What does this lie protect me from?

• What truth from Scripture directly confronts this lie?

• What would my life look like if I truly believed God’s truth instead?

God’s Everlasting Love

What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written:

“For Your sake we are killed all day long;
We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

-Romans 8:31-39